A Little Bit Different

And we’re back! March was a busy month and I took a hiatus from blogging – karma ladies and gentlemen can really slap you in the face sometimes –  I use to be that person who would get impatient because blogs that I followed didn’t post on a regular basis – I’ve now joined their ranks. Oops.

Moving on.

I realize this blog has been about recruiting and it will remain so. However, if you’ll indulge me, I’d like to share something I read today that, again, slapped me in the face. A couple of times. Actually it felt more like a punch to the face. And stomach. A blow out of the knee if you will. You get my point.

I’ve had quite a bit of self discovery this past month and if you’ve ever had a moment of self discovery you know it’s not always the easiest thing to swallow. Usually it’s like that medicine you hated swallowing as a kid, the syrupy, bitter flavored one with a hint of rotted grape. But, just like that medicine, once it’s swallowed it makes you better.

So for the icing on the cake today, my friend Jessica Clark, posted a link that just hammered it all home for me. I have the link below – you should read it, good stuff – and then I’ve listed a few that I’m going to be Giving Up. Whether you care about what I’ve learned or not the post has 50 excellent points that you can apply to anything you are going though in your life – job change, searching for a new opportunity, when you feel overwhelmed, when things are going really great, I think you get the gist here. Read it!

50 Things You Need to Give Up Today

Give up trying to be perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done. I don’t like to disappoint people. This makes me want to always do and say the perfect thing. Let’s face it though, there is no way I’m going to ever be able to be perfect for everyone.

Give up dwelling on the past or worrying too much about the future. – Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  Don’t miss it. This is something that I am stopping. Right. This. Second. Done.

Give up trying to be everything to everyone. – Making one person smile can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  Start small.  Start now. Goes hand in hand with being perfect – there is no way I can make everyone happy all the time. There are simply not enough hours in the day.

Give up trying to live up to the expectations of others. – Work on it for real and exceed your own expectations.  Everything else will fall into place. Do we see a pattern here yet? I let go of all of this for a while but apparently I got lax and have stepped back into those shoes. Constant vigilance. Always strive to be better each day.

Give up letting your thoughts and feelings bottle up inside. – People are not mind readers.  They will never know how you feel unless you tell them. I can’t even begin to explain how much I do this. I come off as a really laid back person that doesn’t let things bother her. Ha! Not quite, I just take all of those messy, pesky thoughts and feelings, put them in a little box, shut it, lock it, and stand on top of it so it can’t get out. So much effort for something that does nothing but hurt myself and those I love.

Give up foolish habits that you know are foolish. – Don’t text and drive.  Don’t drink and drive.  Don’t smoke.  Etc. Isn’t driving the perfect time to email and text? Not so much.

Give up worrying about what others think of you. – Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, first date, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way.  What they think and say about you isn’t important.  What is important is how you feel about yourself. What’s funny is that I really like who I am and how I feel about myself. No more getting tripped up on what others think or perceive of me based on things I can’t control.

Give up trying to control everything. – Life is an unpredictable phenomenon.  No matter how good or bad things seem right now, we can never be 100% certain what will happen next.  So do you best with what’s in front of you and leave the rest to the powers above you. See! I can’t control everything. Breath in, breath out, move on. Jimmy Buffett got that one right. My yoga instructor also hammered this point home last week for me. I’m just getting it from all angles right now. You’d think I’d catch on…

Give up following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t find the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary. Sometimes the smart, safe thing isn’t always the best thing or what will get you to your goals. My best friend, Megan Parsons, and my sister, Shelby Frakes, have both shown me that.

Give up filling every waking moment with commitments and activities. – It’s okay to be alone.  It’s okay to do nothing sometimes.  Think.  Relax. Breathe.  Be. So easy to get lost in everyone else’s schedule.

Give up focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. Again, this is something I’ve done so well in the past and have taken a step back. I’ve seen how powerful positive thinking/goal oriented thinking can be. Why have I chosen to forget it? Back on it.

Give up trying to avoid risk. – There’s no such thing as ‘risk free.’  Everything you do or don’t do has an inherent risk. Hand in hand with taking the path of least resistance. Ready to take on some risks again. Get your game face on kids!

I do believe it’s time to talk about some goal setting.